Monday, June 29, 2009

What Is My Love For You?

To Adrienne,
Commonplace, yet extraordinary.
Undetectable, but never in doubt.
Corinthians 13, though never cliché.
Vast, while intimately close.
Deeply familiar and still uncharted.
Unquestioning, despite all I ask of it.
All things, though nothing without you.

Love,
Dean

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Two Principles

Recently I struck upon two principles that, I hope, will guide my decisions.

Nothing in life is maintenance-free.


Seems simple. However it is also simple to settle into routine and take things for granted. My car needs periodic work, as does my house and health, but less obvious to me are relationships and knowledge base. The maintenance may be easy and infrequent but I must keep it in mind perhaps and even schedule it like three-month oil changes.

Being average is mindless and above-average is easy. Becoming good takes hard work.


I can get by most of the time with doing something and not thinking about it too much. I am an average yard-mower because I just walk back and forth across the lawn and that does the job in a reasonable amount of time. My health, on the other hand, is above average because I put effort into exercising and eating better than most. I am good at my job because I've been in the industry for a decade, read in depth, and dedicated much time to improving myself.

So what?


My goal is to evaluate my activities with these principles in mind. It now becomes important to identify the things I need to do to maintain my life and put time into keeping up the things I want. Adrienne and I have a shining relationship, but we had not discovered how we polish it until recently. I will also decide what level of effort I want to exert on these activities. It is okay for me to be an average lawn-mower and have above-average health. In the end, I would like to be good at my life, which takes effort, planning and deep introspection.